Meir Ezra - In a study
conducted by members of the Los Angeles Police Department, they determined 2%
of the population was actually dangerous and harmful to society; that this
minority was behind most crime.
L. Ron Hubbard puts the
percentage of antisocials at 2.5% with another 17.5% of the population
influenced so heavily by the antisocial that they begin to act like antisocial
personalities. On a world-wide scale, some antisocials are like Stalin or
Hitler, the mafia or terrorists.
In your life, antisocials can
be your boss, your wife, your customers, your coworkers, your lawyer,
accountant, auto mechanic, employee, mother-in-law . . . anyone.
Recognizing the 20% who cause
80% of our troubles is the first step to handling them.
Part One covered the first
characteristic of the antisocial
personality: they speak in generalities. For example, "Everyone thinks
you are too inexperienced," "No one likes what you said" or
"America is terrified."
The second and third
characteristics of an antisocial person is based on the nature of their
conversations.
Bad News
"2. Such a person deals
mainly in bad news, critical or hostile remarks . . ."
"It is notable that there
is no good news or complimentary remark passed on by such a person." — L.
Ron Hubbard
Someone has some good news and
some bad news. A rational or social personality tells you both pieces of news.
The antisocial personality passes only the bad news. Examples:
Social: "Mrs. Jones, we
received the results of your tests. Two are negative, which is good news. The
sample for the third test was lost at the lab. We’re very sorry. The doctor
would like to do it again if you could come in today or tomorrow."
Antisocial: "Mrs. Jones,
we received the results of your tests and there’s a problem. The doctor wants
you to repeat one of the tests as soon as possible. I have an opening next
month."
Social: "While she didn’t
complete the project by noon like we wanted, she stayed up all night and fixed
some problems we didn’t know about. She’ll be done by five tonight."
Antisocial: "We knew she
couldn’t complete the project like we wanted."
Social: "Boy, I loved
that chicken dish. The time you spent to prepare it was well worth it!"
Antisocial: "So this was
your fancy chicken dish? You should try my mother’s. Now that’s good
chicken!"
Social Personality
You can use the opposite
characteristic to improve your personality.
"2. The social
personality is eager to relay good news and reluctant to relay bad.
"He may not even bother
to pass along criticism when it doesn’t matter."
"He is more interested in
making another feel liked or wanted than disliked by others and tends to err
toward reassurance rather than toward criticism." — L. Ron Hubbard
Worsened or Invented Bad News
"3. The antisocial
personality alters, to worsen, communication when he or she relays a message or
news. Good news is stopped and only bad news, often embellished, is passed
along.
"Such a person also
pretends to pass on ‘bad news’ which is in actual fact invented." — L. Ron
Hubbard
Just passing on bad news is
not enough for antisocials. They prefer to make it sound worse. They will even
make up some bad news if the truth is not bad enough.
Neighborhood gossipers,
politicians and most news reporters are good examples.
"She seems to have a
different man’s car in front of her house every night."
"Unlike my political
opponent, I will not tolerate child pornography!"
"Many questions exist
about his sudden wealth."
Have you ever watched the
nightly news and felt nothing good was happening in the world? Do you ever feel
optimistic after reading the front page of a newspaper?
A few years ago, CBS reported,
"HUNDREDS FEARED DEAD IN FLOOD" when referring to a storm that
flooded parts of Northern California—two people died. CNN reported, "THE
TALIBAN SENDS 300,000 TROOPS TO BORDERS," when in turned out to be fewer
than 10,000.
In fact, you reduce your
stress and feel happier if you stop reading newspapers, stop watching the news
and ignore people who pass on bad news. Try it!
Antisocial personalities are
horrible relay points. They ruin reputations, create chaos and start fights.
For example, the boss tells an
employee, "Doug, please tell Pam she’s doing a great job and can leave
early today, if she’d like."
If Doug is an antisocial or
acting like an antisocial, he says, "Pam, the boss wants you to clock out
and go home right now. He seemed pretty unhappy."
So Pam says, "I don’t
understand . . . I guess I’d better leave."
Doug then comes and tells you,
"Pam is confused. She didn’t finish her work and just walked out when I
told her what you said. I think she’s on her period."
Unless you and Pam discover
the truth about Doug, your working relationship will suffer. The strain will
cause internal stress, a fight or worse.
On a broader scale, outsiders
might pass exaggerations and lies between two nations and thus start a war.
"The Southerners hate
you. They say you are evil. They plan to poison your water supply."
"The Northerners hate
you. They say you are evil. They plan to poison your water supply."
After several months of this,
the South and North start a war.
Marriages are also ruined by
antisocial lies and alterations.
Chris lies to the husband and
says, "Don’t tell your wife I said this, but she and Pete have been
getting awfully friendly."
Chris then lies to the wife,
"Don’t tell your husband I said this, but his daily hugs with Sharon are
getting pretty intimate."
Even though there is nothing
going on, the husband and wife suddenly suspect a problem and start fighting.
The Opposite Characteristic
"3. A social personality
passes communication without much alteration and if deleting anything tends to
delete injurious matters.
"He does not like to hurt
people’s feelings." — L. Ron Hubbard
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